Men, We Need You To Tell Your Truths, Too

Don’t like how you’re treated? Don’t like the racism and misandry? Feel abused? Tell us why. Yes, I’m serious.

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Women must know more than men about how to be a real man because it seems like 910% of advice articles written about How To Be A Better Man are written by women. It’s embarrassingly sexist. Remember the days when almost exclusively men wrote articles and whole books teaching women how to be better wives, mothers, human beings? The kind men approved of? And we didn’t get to say much about it? Our job was to listen, nod, and take notes to Improve Ourselves To Please Men More?

No, me neither. It was the ’50s and ’60s. I was either waiting to be born or to become functionally literate.

Before second wave feminism, wimmins’ mags were replete with what you must do to find, attract, please, nail, and keep your man (happy) so he doesn’t leave you, because if he does, it’s all your fault.

If you miss all that stupid shit today, no worries! You can still subscribe to Cosmopolitan. Now the tables have turned, feminism has given women a lot more personal power, and men feel like they’re under constant seige. Payback sucks.

Today women profess to know everything about men and they’re happy to share, whether you asked or not.

And no one finds this the slightest bit inappropriate or presumptive!

I understand why men don’t want to speak up. Victimhood-addled ‘feminists’ can be brutal if you don’t acknowledge their narcissistic worldview that men are the architects of all their pain.

Worse, they can be cruel and dismissive when men try to point out how being a man in a man’s world isn’t exactly skybox seating at the Superbowl.

Cosmo still makes it clear: If you’re not sexy

and man-pleasing, you’re worthless. And

feminists say *men* are patriarchal…!

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This is all about me me me and MY suffering! Shut up with your narcissistic whiny-ass white male keening!

We undermine our own cause and give lie to our profession of a desire for equality when we treat men the way they have historically treated women.

We complain about male trolls who swoop in on a woman ‘telling her truth’ they don’t want to hear: How she’s been victimized, assaulted, talked over, overlooked, written off. How vicious emasculated-feeling little wannabe insurrectionists can be when women speak up with their stories.

I’m so glad we’re not like that with men.

So fuck the other 20%. Unless they’re women now. THEN you can feel and acknowledge their pain.

“Next man-hating bitch who says something misandrist gets a week’s worth of my feminist-hating.”


Celebrate bigotry while claiming to be ‘woke’.

Yes, she really said that to Johnny Depp.

Irony abounds.

Feminists get a few things right — actually, a lot of things right, if you listen to the ones Christina Hoff Sommers calls ‘equity’ feminists — those who are interested in genuine equality — versus ‘gender’ feminists, those who see the world through a chronic victimhood lens. I prefer Naomi Wolf’s distinction, ‘power’ feminists versus ‘victim’ feminists. Technically, we’re all gender feminists since feminism is, primarily, about the historical patriarchal social structure and men’s domination over women.

That said, two wrongs don’t make a right, and women didn’t have a voice at the table on Howtuhbeabetterwoman until they spoke the fuck up and told their stories.

Some were great, some were, well, imperfect. Man-hating. An early iteration of second wave feminist man-hating was Valerie Solanas’s SCUM Manifesto in which she argued men had ruined the world and women needed to create a Society for Cutting Up Men to fix it, and called for the elimination of all men.