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Challenging
Victim
Feminism

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Feminism has gone as far as it can go explicating, dissecting, analyzing, and blaming men and patriarchy. It's time to put an end to the  same old infantilizing discourse and denial of personal responsibility. Victim thinking holds women back and teaches young girls they're at the mercy of boys and men, rather than that they have the power to choose how they'll be treated. 

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Who Stole Feminsm? How Women Have Betrayed Women - Christina Hoff Sommers

     What the hell happened with feminism? In the '60s and '70s it was all about female power, in the '80s it was about reclaiming the boardroom and in the '90s--well, feminists turned into a bunch of fearful wussies.

The Morning After: Sex, Fear and Feminism - Katie Roiphe

     Roiphe's observations and analyses of feminist issues and causes on campus in the '90s are spot-on and will make any victim feminist squirm uncomfortably. Roiphe turns a critical eye on the 'rape crisis', Take Back The Night, the campus 'blue light' system, sexual harassment, and 'Antiporn Star" Catherine McKinnon. 

When She Was Bad: Violent Women and the Myth of Innocence - Patricia Pearson

     Screw that 'sugar & spice, & everything nice' crap - Pearson argues women are just as violent as men, but they express it in different ways, including when killing their own children. She covers girl aggression, domestic violence (by women), female prisoners, female serial killers and of course baby- and child-killing. 

Conflict Is Not Abuse: Overstating Harm, Community Responsibility & the Duty to Repair - Sarah Schulman

     This is the antidote to Generation Snowflake and everything 'woke'! Schulman dives into the modern-day confliation of conflict or disagreement with abuse and explores the way misstating conflict and overstating harm hurts the individuals involved and further divides the society. Read this before you venture onto Facebook or Twitter!

Fire With Fire: The New Female Power And How To Use It - Naomi Wolf

     Okay, it's not exactly new since Wolf wrote this shortly after the Anita Hill/Clarence Thomas hearings. Wolf describes the difference between victim feminism - those who identify with female frailty and weakness, who keep demanding 'protection' from a patriarchal government, and 'power feminists', those who identify with strength, independence and personal power and use it to help others, which women can now do financially and politically.

Camille Paglia:

     I have mixed feelings about her. The books I'll recommend by her are awesome - she was 'anti-woke' before woke was a thing, and critical of critical gender theory on college campuses. As she gets older she tends sometimes toward the extreme and allies herself with unpalatable allies <cite this>. But damn, when she's good, she's very very good...

Vamps & Tramps: New Essays

Sex, Art & American Culture: Essays

     

Like some of these....

A book on dating app culture demonstrates how misogyny persists when women *allow* it. When we don’t tolerate bad men, they disappear.
 
Pardon my French. But I'm asking. Would absusers  with their bike grip-shaped dick in their hand?
I was my worst abuser. I’m not the only one. We all are our own worst enemy.
If I was inclined toward victimhood rather than personal power I could have made myself suffer more than ‘The Patriarchy’. Here's how I would have turned every encounter with a man into an Epic Battle With The Patriarchy, using my best academic jargonbabble.
Porn created by women for women had to be light-years better than male-created porn, right? Right? Erm....no.
"Why doesn't she leave him?" and "Why does she tolerate such behavior?" are no longer off the table.