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    Smashing The Patriarchy? What's In It For Men?
    Nicole Chardenet
    • Jun 1
    • 6 min

    Smashing The Patriarchy? What's In It For Men?

    Some men still resist women's equal rights. But what if a more egalitarian society brings them...certain benefits? Does he look like he's complaining? Photo by Vlada Karpovich on Pexels In my last article, What If Human Women Challenged Male Aggression Like Bonobos? I explored theories as to why our close primate cousins evolved toward the more peaceful society many of us humans claim we want. Bonobo society exhibits some elements of a 'matriarchy' rather than a patriarchy, b
    Dumb Shit I’ve Done
    Nicole Chardenet
    • Apr 19
    • 10 min
    Feminism

    Dumb Shit I’ve Done

    I didn’t get raped, but I sure made it easy for them Photo by Jody Halsted on Flickr I spend a lot of time thinking about how we can protect ourselves better against sexual assault, particularly young girls and women. Especially what us older and more experienced women can offer, because the earlier you teach women how to take charge of their own safety, the less likely they’ll be sexually assaulted. An ounce of prevention, etc. Female psychology, some biological, some social
    Yeah, Um, About That 'Racist Coverage of Ukraine' Thing...
    Nicole Chardenet
    • Apr 18
    • 10 min
    Racism

    Yeah, Um, About That 'Racist Coverage of Ukraine' Thing...

    Trevor Noah's tribal whataboutism sparks my own. Whatabout your own moral blindness, Trevor? Ukrainian refugees crossing into Poland. CC0 4.0 image by Міністерство внутрішніх справ України on Wikimedia Commons I'll call what Trevor Noah expressed at the beginning of the Russian war on Ukraine 'tribalism'. He accused both journalists and news consumers of racism for viewing the war differently from wars in other parts of the world. He isn't wrong, but he blithely ignores other
    The Guy’s Guide To Talking To Women
    Nicole Chardenet
    • Apr 16
    • 9 min
    Stuff For Men

    The Guy’s Guide To Talking To Women

    From a non-misandrist & hopefully helpful standpoint Graphic by Jose The Storyteller on Pixabay (quote added) Talking to women is a minefield for men. Romantic connection is at an all-time low. Millennials aren’t having sex. Bumble exists because, as a male friend put it, “Men are sick of being shot down all the time. Fine, let women decide who they’re going to talk to.” Michael Kimmel writes books about clueless young Guyland and Angry White Men, although I’m pretty sure not
    Will Smith Is Barking Mad - And So Are We
    Nicole Chardenet
    • Mar 31
    • 6 min
    Stupid Politics

    Will Smith Is Barking Mad - And So Are We

    Smith's WTF moment encapsulates how badly Americans need a time-out. Everyone go to your room and take ten years! CC0 Creative Commons image from PeakPX WTF happened at the Oscars? Right now I feel like an exasperated mother who wants to send Will Smith and Chris Rock to their rooms so they can both think about what they did. And the rest of us too, as this story unfolds. The exasperated American in me understands, if not condones, how Smith felt, because frankly, I'd love to
    "She Is Willing To Do Whatever It Takes To Be With Me"
    Nicole Chardenet
    • Mar 5
    • 10 min
    Patch Your Brain

    "She Is Willing To Do Whatever It Takes To Be With Me"

    Marilyn Manson's #MeToo moment has arrived, but his victims have nothing new to offer about how women get sucked into these abusive relationships Do NOT date someone with a 'bad girls room'. CC0 3.0 photo by Rockman on Wikimedia Commons You don't have to be Marilyn Manson to abuse women the way he's accused, but it undoubtedly makes things a smidge easier. Last year ex-fiancee Evan Rachel Wood outed the previously alluded-to 'powerful' man who cruelly abused her for years. Sh
    Time To Ask Certain Feminists Some Hard Questions
    Nicole Chardenet
    • Feb 5
    • 8 min
    Feminism

    Time To Ask Certain Feminists Some Hard Questions

    "Why doesn't she leave him?" and "Why does she tolerate such behavior?" are no longer off the table. Image by Chloe Lemieux from Pixabay Call it ‘The Matriarchy of Silence’. A self-imposed hush-don't-speak by women, for women, to protect women from taking charge of their lives. A 1960s Women's Liberation 2.0 beginning with vigorous protest marches and demands for equal pay, government-subsidized childcare and education equality turned passive somewhere in the '90s and led to
    Yes, the Ghislaine Maxwell Witnesses WERE Believed!
    Nicole Chardenet
    • Jan 11
    • 5 min
    Feminism

    Yes, the Ghislaine Maxwell Witnesses WERE Believed!

    The trial was a big win for sexual abuse victims CC0 image from Pixnio It shaped up to be a tough slog for witnesses testifying against Ghislaine Maxwell at her sexual abuse and trafficking trial, challenged to remember events as they happened twenty and thirty years ago. Wide speculation held it would all hinge on the credibility of the all-but-one pseudonymous victims. Would they be believed? The defense team did what they were paid to do, attempt to discredit them and rend
    Moving Beyond Man-Hating
    Nicole Chardenet
    • Jan 8
    • 7 min
    Patch Your Brain

    Moving Beyond Man-Hating

    It's time to confront victim feminism's self-imposed disempowerment. Who's truly holding us back? Photo by Anthony Tran on Unsplash The persistent image of 'man-hating' has dogged feminism since, like, forever. It perpetually irritates some not because it's inaccurate, but because it isn't. More than ever. Power vs. victim feminism Naomi Wolf described two types of feminism she encountered in her 1994 book Fire with Fire: New Female Power and How It Will Change the Twenty-Fir
    How Can Men Tell Their Stories And Challenge Toxic Feminism?
    Nicole Chardenet
    • Jan 5
    • 9 min
    Patch Your Brain

    How Can Men Tell Their Stories And Challenge Toxic Feminism?

    Men, I offer my own experience and encourage you: Please, go forth and write! Photo by Andres Ayrton from Pexels Everyone’s tribe is under siege, especially in the Ignited States of America. Victimhood culture’s self-destructive ideology has infected the bodies politic and social like a metastasized cancer. America falls apart before our eyes, slouching toward potential failed state status. We hate each other. Still, we’re all victims, legitimately. To some degree. Yeah, even
    Telling Your Truth: The Anonymity Credibility Dilemma
    Nicole Chardenet
    • Jul 26, 2021
    • 7 min
    Feminism

    Telling Your Truth: The Anonymity Credibility Dilemma

    Who are you? Why should I believe your story? Photo by Cassidy Dickens on Unsplash I wrote an article awhile back — Men, We Need You To Tell Your Truths Too. My opinion, shared by others, is that the gender narrative is dominated heavily by victim feminists who see the world through the rust-colored glasses of powerlessness and a patriarchy looming larger in their heads than it does in ours. One must wonder how galling it is for men to read endless — and I mean endless! — art
    Ladies, We’re Running Out Of Excuses For Tolerating Abuse
    Nicole Chardenet
    • Jan 7, 2021
    • 8 min
    How To Not Get Abused

    Ladies, We’re Running Out Of Excuses For Tolerating Abuse

    FKA Twigs’s story demonstrates the uselessness of #MeToo if we refuse to learn from it, and act more intelligently By Bobo Boom on Wikimedia Commons — FKA Twigs, CC BY 2.0 Singer, songwriter, dancer, and this week’s #MeToo cover girl FKA Twigs, the woman whose initials don’t stand for anything, who ‘just wanted a selection of letters that sounded quite kind of masculine and strong,’ filed a lawsuit against career violent bad boy Shia LaBoeuf for sexual assault, battery, and e
    What Women Can Learn From Studying Pickup Artists
    Nicole Chardenet
    • Oct 21, 2020
    • 10 min
    How To Not Get Abused

    What Women Can Learn From Studying Pickup Artists

    Women unconsciously collude with sexual predators. Know their tactics, and reclaim your power Women aren’t helpless little ‘targets’. We can fortify ourselves against males who seek to exploit our psychological weaknesses. Photo by SilviaP_Design on Needpix The smarter a girl is, the better it works. Party girls with attention deficit disorder generally don’t stick around to hear the routines. A more perceptive, worldly, or educated girl will listen and think, and soon find h
    Let’s Start Over With Men’s Rights
    Nicole Chardenet
    • Oct 8, 2020
    • 7 min
    Patch Your Brain

    Let’s Start Over With Men’s Rights

    Roy Den Hollander shows just how utterly silly and irrelevant ‘men’s rights’ has always been. The movement needs a reboot. Graphic by Philip Taylor on Flickr Ladies Night? THAT’S what this moron had a problem with? I visited dead emasculated male Roy Den Hollander’s website to learn more about the so-called ‘men’s rights activist’ who gunned down a Hispanic judge’s husband and son and has been connected to the murder of a fellow MRA. I figured there must be a woman behind thi
    Confronting Our Inner Dinosaur
    Nicole Chardenet
    • Oct 4, 2020
    • 7 min
    Patch Your Brain

    Confronting Our Inner Dinosaur

    Why do personally strong women refuse to challenge the outdated feminist narratives in their head? Confronting our inner dinosaur. Image by Lothar Dieterich from Pixabay I’ve always been disappointed when personally strong female friends, who would never take crap from a man, much less outright abuse, passively enable continued female victimhood with their outdated, unchallenged views. This ain’t the ’80s anymore. Second wave feminism was barely old enough to get into bars wh

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