Grow Some Labia! Is a place for women who want to reclaim their power and find their voice in a culture that’s often hostile to egalitarianism and a truly empowered feminism.
This is for those who believe in personal responsibility, owning your issues, and recognizing when you’re the one holding yourself back. And who want to change.
We've spent enough time analyzing the effect of 'the patriarchy' on women and how it holds us back; now let's talk about what we're doing to ourselves back. I blog on Medium and here about the limitations of today's victim narrative-centered feminism.
Where Do I start?
Grow Some Labia
What If Women Refused To Shag Abusive Men?
What would the world look like? When abusive men (or people, since women can be abusive too) continue to get shagged it encourages them to stay abusive. I don't mean withholding sex; I mean *refusing to shag them at all*. If the dating pool for abusers was limited to only those who are truly desperate for a partner in their life, what would that mean for all the women these guys *couldn't* have? They'd have to change or die with their you-know-what in their hand. CREDITS: Images: Alyssa Milano – Greg 2600 – Wikimedia Commons Amber Heard – Public domain – Mepixels Banana – CC0 from Peakpx Beard – public domain – Needpix Bow Wow – Creative Common CC0 3.0 – Wikimedia Commons Chris Brown – Eva Rinaldi – CC0 2.0 – Wikimedia Commons Couple in bed – Sasin Tipchai – Pixabay Crowd – Public domain – Piqsels Doris Day – Skeeze – Needpix Johnny Depp – Georges Biard – CC0 3.0 – Wikimedia Commons Jose Canseco – Glenn Francis – GNU – Wikimedia Commons Statue – public domain – Pickpik Mel Gibson – Greg 2600 – CC0 2.0 – Wikimedia Commons Ray Rice – Keith Allison – CC0 2.0 – Wikimedia Commons Thumbs down woman – Rickey123 – Pixabay Richard Pryor – CC0 – Wikimedia Commons Sean Penn – Chrisa Hickey – CC0 3.0 – Wikimedia Commons Vintage muff – Samuel William Fores – Wikimedia Commons Woman at mirror – Gerd Altmann – Pixabay Sound: Violin Screech – no name – InstrumentalFX Weird metallic sound – Aarondbaron – Messed Thoughtful – Arulo – Mixkit Time Rider – FSM Team – Freestock Music Time Rider by | e s c p | https://escp-music.bandcamp.com Music promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.com Attribution 4.0 International (CC BY 4.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/ Whodiniz – Piano Vibe – Free Music Archives Happy Rock – Bensound Heavy metal intro & outro – Fossa11 – Free Music Archives
How To Avoid Abuse - Patch Your Vulnerabilities!
What we don’t talk about nearly enough is what women can do to prevent becoming victims of abuse. An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure, right? Today we’re going to look at two of the psychological vulnerabilities women possess that are easily exploited by abusers. This is how women can take charge of their lives and reclaim their power. Men can do the same if they’re in abusive relationships. The dynamics aren’t much different. CREDITS: Music: Mellow Power – Beyond The Line – Bensound Thoughtful – Arulo – Mixkit Piano Vibes – Whodiniz – Free Music Archives Sad Day – Bensound Happy Rock – Bensound Hard Rock – Fossa111 - Freesound Fólkvangr by Alexander Nakarada | https://www.serpentsoundstudios.com Music promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.com Attribution 4.0 International (CC BY 4.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/ Short But Strong! by Savfk | https://www.youtube.com/savfkmusic Music promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.com Attribution 4.0 International (CC BY 4.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/ SFX Fail - CC0 - Wolfsinger on Freesound The Patriarchy - Darryl 'Daz' Jones, Aspiring Filmmaker & Uninspiring Patriarchitect on Twitter @Randumbthawt Images: 2 kissing dogs - Craig Cochrane on Flickrjpg Angel on a cloud – royalty-free – Pickpik Angelic girl – public domain – Pickpik Medieval armour – awsloley – Pixabay Arrow – CC0 public domain - Maxpixel Female brain with gears – GDJ on Needpix Female computer network brain – Public Domain on Piqsels Don’t blame the victim meme from Friends – Needpix Meeting review – public domain on Pikist Office background – MagicDesk on Pixabay Office wall background – Bumiputra – Pixabay OJ – handsome – Gerald Johnson – Wikimedia Commons OJ – mug shot – George Sand – Wikimedia OJ – celebrating – OJ murder scene – Wikimedia Commons OJ – verdict headline – Sarah Sphar – Flickr Plastic brain – Pikrepo Poop emoji – Wikimedia Commons Red Flag – Wikimedia Commons Sandbox girls – CC0 4.0 International License Strong lock – CC0 public domain – Pxhere Vikings background- Pxfuel Woman with question mark – Needpix Woman peering over sunglasses – CC0 public domain by Sheila Brown SFX: The Patriarchy - Darryl 'Daz' Jones, Aspiring Bad Movie Filmmaker and Non-Patriarchitect @randumbthawt on Twitter Fail - Wolfsinger - CC0 on Freesound
When You Tell Your Truth, How Much Of It Is True?
The best we can do is tell the truth to the best of our ability. Many today are 'telling their truths', their stories that they perhaps had never told before. Oftentimes these stories are dark tales of abuse and mistreatment. Often they come from women, but sometimes they come from men (and I hope more men take the initiative and begin telling their truths too.) The problem is...how much of your truth is really *true*, and how much of it may be...the cognitive distortions of our own skewed views and interpretations. Do you even know? CREDITS: Graphics: Eight-fold Path – Wikimedia Commons Angry Woman – Prettysleepy1 – Needpix Cartoon couple fighting – Mote Oo Education – Pixabay Narcissist – Jason Saul – Flickr Psychopath – Kokoroza – Wikimedia Commons Gaslight still – Public Domain – Wikimedia Commons Masked woman – Public Domain – Pickpik Sneaky cartoon character – Public Domain - FreeSVG Smurf toy – Public Domain – PxFuel Frustrated Woman - Pexels Woman in woods thumbnail graphic - Nika Akin on Pixabay SFX: The Patriarchy - by chief butt-kicker Darryl 'Daz' Jones @randumbthawt on Twitter Music: Intro & outtro heavy rock by Fossa on Freesound Time Rider – Free Stock Music https://www.free-stock-music.com/time-rider.html Psychedelic/Rumble/Happy Rock – Bensound Hip Hop – LilyJ – Mixkit Optimistic-Inspirational – Mixaund – Free Stock Music https://www.free-stock-music.com/mixaund-optimistic-inspirational.html
What Would You Do To Stop Male Abuse?
What do you do when you hear a woman who sounds like she's in danger from a man and there are no men around to help? How far should we go to intervene? How much should we put our own lives in danger? How far are any of us willing to go to stop male abuse...if we can? I know men suffer from abuse at women's hands too. That's maybe a subject for another video! Here's what I had to say about the mutually abusive Johnny Depp/Amber Heard divorce.... Amber & Johnny: A Violent Tale With No Innocent Victims https://www.nicolechardenet.com/amber-johnny-a-violent-tale-with-no-innocent-victims CREDITS: ‘Abusive jerk getting chewed out’, editing assistant, motivational guru, fellow beach scout and beer provider – Darryl ‘Daz’ Jones @randumbthawt on Twitter Sound FX: Wooden Thump – Attrib 3.0 – Mike Koenig – Soundbible Girl quietly crying – Ame Angel of Sin – Freesound Body Fall – Blastwave FX – Zapsplat Bodyslam into wall – Nothayama – Freesound Door opening & closing – Partners In Crime – Free Sound Effects Box Thrown -Acorcuera – Freesound Throwing stuff – Pfranzen – Freesound Intro & outtro – Heavy rock by Fossa11 – Freesound Hard rock loop guitars – Zagi2 – Attrib 3.0 - Freesound Graphics & photos: Thumbnail photo – Gerd Altmann – Pixabay
The Murky Middle of Politics
The Murky Middle of politics and public debate is where you go when you're too extreme and radical for the far right or left. It's where you're a little left or right of center, so in these hyper-divided times everyone concludes you're either a sheet-wearing MAGA-hatted KlansNazi or a man-hating academic jargonbabbling social justice warrior. So if you're some slightly leftist or rightist freak who looks at more than just their own side on an issue, join me in the Murky Middle. Just be forewarned: You won't always like the company you keep! The Intellectual Dark Web link referenced in the video: https://www.nytimes.com/2018/05/08/opinion/intellectual-dark-web.html CREDITS: Touched By His Noodly Appendage – Public Domain by Niklas Jansson – Flickr Zombie eating sound effect – Fesliyan Studios Angel – Playing With Brushes – Flickr Evil Clown – Justin Mazza – Flickr Angry Mob sound effect – FreeSFX Toronto G20 riot police – Chris Huggins on Flickr Thumbnail photo – diver – Rick Hawkins on Free Images Oprah – Vic on Flickr Jean-Claude Van Damme – Georges Biard – Wikimedia Commons Angry mob figures by Robert Couse-Baker on Wikimedia Commons Angry pitchfork lady – Hans Splinter – Flickr MUSIC: Upbeat Energy – Bensound Beyond The Line – Mellow Power on Bensound Intro & outtro – heavy rock – Fossa on Bensound Hail to the chief – Public domain
Let's Make Power Feminists Cool Again
Feminism is about power, right? So why are some feminists so afraid of using it? If the personal is the political, shouldn't it start at the first level - with you? Me? All of us? It starts with the woman in the mirror. Power feminism is about using power to change the system and make life better for everyone, not just women. It's about true equality, not eternal victimhood. Power feminists recognize their personal, economic, educational and financial power and they're not afraid to use it, and when they do they don't hurt others in the process. Check out my blog at http:/www.nicolechardenet.com/blog The LinkedIn article I referenced: Women's-Only Groups: Are They Archaic? https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/womens-only-groups-archaic-nicole-chardenet/ CREDITS: Unsplash: Women in field holding hands – Julia Caesar Sexy lettuce by Dainis Graveris on Unsplash Pixabay: Man & woman in bed – Sasint Businesswoman thumbnail image & Stop Rape image by Gerd Altmann FAIL graphic – The Digital Artist Flickr: Trump rally by The Epoch Times Trump meeting – Public domain (The White House) Wikimedia Commons: White & Black hands – CC0 on Wikimedia Commons Woodrow Wilson – CC0 on Wikimedia Commons FDR inauguration photos – Public Domain Mississippi State flag – Public domain Patriarchy SFX by Darryl ‘Daz’ Jones @randumbthawt Pussy hat protest pic – Public domain from Wallpaperflare Not Your Toy & female protester with Guy Fawkes mask – public domain on Pikist Fail sound by Wolfsinger at Freesound Dun dun dun sound by Fesliyan Studios FDR fear speech & Yalta Conference photo -Public domain from NARA (National Archives & Records Administration) Music: Time Rider - Time Rider by | e s c p | https://escp-music.bandcamp.com Music promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.com, Attribution 4.0 International (CC BY 4.0) Happy Rock & Punky Music – Bensound Hard rock riff on intro & outro – Fossa11 at Freesound Wikimedia Commons: White & Black hands – CC0 on Wikimedia Commons Woodrow Wilson – CC0 on Wikimedia Commons FDR inauguration photos – Public Domain Mississippi State flag – Public domain Patriarchy SFX by Darryl ‘Daz’ Jones @randumbthawt Pussy hat protest pic – Public domain from Wallpaperflare Not Your Toy & female protester with Guy Fawkes mask – public domain on Pikist Fail sound by Wolfsinger at Freesound Dun dun dun sound by Fesliyan Studios FDR fear speech & Yalta Conference photo -Public domain from NARA (National Archives & Records Administration) Music: Time Rider - Time Rider by | e s c p | https://escp-music.bandcamp.com Music promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.com, Attribution 4.0 International (CC BY 4.0) Happy Rock & Punky Music – Bensound Hard rock riff on intro & outro – Fossa11 at Freesound
How To Avoid Abuse - Identify the 'Red Flag' Men
Some women don't have the radar for recognizing guys from potentially dangerous subcultures - the kind that are sometimes hypermasculine and misogynist. Not all of them are bad, abusive guys but one must be cautious when dealing with them. This is the stuff your mother may never have taught you! CREDITS: Thumbnail photo – Ali Tareq – Unsplash Finger flip guy – Alexander Mills – Unsplash Macho torso – Alora Griffiths – Unsplash Rocket Liftoff – Dobroride – Soundbible Older Donald Trump – Gage Skidmore on Flickr Car skid by Medartimus on Freesound Chrissie Hynde by Darien Graham-Smith on Flickr Biker on fire - Image by prettysleepy1 from Pixabay Full muscled guy - Image by SilviaP_Design from Pixabay Cartoon love foxes – Pixabay Red flag waving – Videezy Romantic Fireside Date by David Renda on Fesliyan Studios Happy Rock & Beyond the Line from Bensound Circus Maximus – The Fifth Life – Free Music Archive Beyond The Line - Bensound Hard rock riff on intro & outro – Fossa11 at Freesound
Feminists, Don't Fear Your Power!
Congresse's 'The Squad' isn’t afraid of their own power. They watched what happened in 2016 and Trumped—ar ar--the backlash against cultural progressivism along with 98 other women who ran for office and got their pretty little asses elected. But many feminists seem to still fear their own growing power, and using it for the greater good. Naomi Wolf defined the problem in the early '90s, right after the Clarence Thomas Supreme Court hearings. Credits: The Squad photos – public domain – Wikimedia Commons Lame manbashing meme from H. Michael Karshis on Flickr Patriarchy ahead – Public domain – Wikimedia Commons Nancy Pelosi photo – public domain, Wikimedia Commons Pelosi dominating Trump – CC0 Public Generic 2.0 Clinton Trump caricature by DonkeyHotey on Flickr Sharon Stone from Basic Instinct – public domain on Flickr Trump tantrum – David Lacasse on Flickr Coronavirus – NIAID on Flickr add witches Man screaming – Thanvannispen – Freesound.org Ow sound – Mike Koenig at Freesound Punky music by Bensound Piano Vibe by Whodiniz at SoundBible Ta da from Soundbible